It’s Okay to Be Sad At Christmas

After my post yesterday a funny thing happened. People began to get in touch with me and share their feelings. Turns out that I was not alone in my struggles. Many of us are mourning over loved ones, grieving estranged and lost children, feeling deep pain that Christmas lights and music do not sooth. We may look okay on the outside, but our hearts are breaking for people we love or other reasons.

As Christians sometimes we can get the message that being sad is not okay, that it means we don’t trust God. This is not necessarily true. Grief is not a lack of faith! God gave us emotions for a reason, even though sometimes I wish he hadn’t. This kind of heart pain is brutal. I don’t wish it on anyone. Love is risky business and parental love is the most expensive kind. It costs you everything if you go all in.

So to all of you who are grieving for any reason during the ‘most wonderful time of the year’, I want you to know that God knows and He grieves with you. He loves you so much that he sent Jesus!

I am trying to be patient and I AM trusting that God is always good, always right on time, and always faithful. And I am so thankful for the birth of Jesus! I hope you, too, can find peace in Jesus even though your heart is sad.


  1. “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
    ― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
    Daily prayers, dear one and for John as well.

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