Originally posted in June 2018 by me. Note that there is no chicken yard behind the boys.
Same shit, different day.
It was a saying when I was younger, I’m not sure if it is still being used. It means that you had a typical , boring day. But in my case, I think SSDD is not a negative thing. One thing I’ve noticed through the magic of social media, especially Facebook memories, is that my life has been pretty routine, repetitive and predictable over the years, at least since the internet has been keeping track for me. At first I was bothered by that . I thought, Wow, I am a boring person! I did the exact same thing last year on this day! But then I realized that there is a good reason for the sameness. I know what I like!
I do what I like, travel, running, hiking , over and over, based on the season, and based on what is offered at various times of year. I would do those things even more often if had the chance, but I think God made seasons to force us to mix it up. In fact, I’m so bad about falling in love with something and wanting to do it ALL THE TIME, that I get sad when I can’t. So it is actually helpful for me to see these memories and remember that I have had a lot of fun times in my life and I will probably have more fun times, even if this day, week , or month is kinda boring.
Another good thing about these social media reminders is that I tend to live in the moment and I also have a very bad memory. These two things can tend to make me forget the good times and the happy times when I am having a bad day. I love it that other people can remember things better and they tell stories that include me or my kids having fun, good times I’ve forgotten. It helps me say, oh, I DO have a good life! Oh, my kids DO have a good childhood! Oh, I am SO blessed! Because some days I feel sorry for myself or that I’m a terrible mom or that God doesn’t care about me. But based on these Facebook memories, I can see that I’m a pretty good mom and I have done a lot of cool stuff and gone on some great trips.
Of course , one bad thing about looking back on the Timeline is I can see some of the dumb and negative stuff I’ve posted in the past on a bad day or just a thoughtless moment, and that makes me feel like an idiot and embarrassed at my stupidity. It does make me try harder to think before I click POST! And thankfully we can delete those posts, but the damage may have been done.
People can take your posts way more seriously than you meant them, or vice versa. Or they can misunderstand completely what thoughts and ideas you are trying to convey if you don’t state them clearly. If I am talking to someone face to face, we will have an actual conversation , back and forth, with facial expressions, body language, and voice changes, getting to the real meaning and hopefully coming to understand each other’s point of view. But let’s face it, most of us do the same thing if we use social media regularly. We post things we later regret or have to clarify. We have to forgive ourselves, learn, and try to do better at communicating, being compassionate, and putting ourselves in other’s shoes.
That is why I think Facebook can be a good thing for people like me who have poor social skills. Part of having ADHD is not thinking about the other person before you act of speak. It’s not that you don’t care, you just get in a rush. Facebook has given me good feedback and enough shame, if you will, to make me slow down and think. But I still slip up and I am thankful for the friends who are forgiving towards me. I think they see my real self, the person who really does care about people.
What about you? Do you look at your Facebook memories? Does it make you feel good or bad ?
I try to eat a whole avocado everyday too ;). Eating one tonight with a delicious grass fed burger!
YUM! Happy eating!
I love summer all the time and running and swimming everyday. Can’t for the next few weeks because I broke a bone in my foot.
I have no Facebook regrets, or blog regrets.
Oh no! Sorry to hear about the broken foot. Hope it heals well.
Looking back at my blog or at FB, I tend to be doing the same things each year at the same time. Maybe that’s because it’s a pleasant, happy life without too many ups and downs?
I think you’re right. We are blessed!
“Don’t cry because it’s over. Be happy because it happened.” (Dr. Suess)
And another, “Too often, we judge others by their worst examples while judging ourselves by our best intentions.” (George W. Bush)
I left FB many years ago (when you had to delete ONE photo at a time! 🙄) and never looked back! This is my only “social media,” and I am most thankful for wise and endearing friends like you, John and Grace and others who comment, correct or discuss issues online. I don’t have ADHD (Oh, look at that squirrel! 😁) but I’ve had the memorial abilities of an 80-year-old since I was 25! After Anita retires in a couple years, we are going to start going through all my digital pics and select a few from each trip or year and print them for photo albums, the way she used to collect all my photos from the days of film.
Cue “Memories” from Barb Streisand and Elvis! 😉
❤️& 🙏, c.a.
I love WordPress. I wish more of my friends would get on here. Until then I have to visit them on Facebook. 🙂
Yeah, must be nice to have friends. You’re about it for Anita and me. 😂
Well ‘friends’ can mean a lot of things. Most people don’t have a lot of close friends. 🙂
Just teasin’, of course. We used to have weekly groups of friends to our home for lunch and supper, and hope to be getting back into that groove next month. A couple BFFs know EVERYthing about me and about us, and that is important. 😉
Covid really upset the social scene, but I’m happy to see people getting back to normal.
And my brother would ask who ever told you that YOU were normal!? 😂