The Strange Way I Learned What “Holding Space” Means

My sons , plus my son’s girlfriend (jeans) and my niece (plaid pants) being blinded by the sun on Christmas Day

This is a story of how I learned about the idea of “holding space” for someone and trusting that God can handle their problems. In other words , I just need to shut up, listen, pray and wait.

If you’re over 50 and conservative, you might not know about ‘holding space’. It’s not really that complicated, but it goes against the grain for some of us. Holding space refers to allowing a person to work through their problems without judging them or offering solutions. Sometimes a simple concept can be very difficult to put into practice. Learning to be patient while God works is one of those times. But waiting on God to do His work can lead to amazing results. I think this is a concept that could really make a difference in many relationships and our world as a whole. Social media has led to way too much talking and not enough listening. So have a listen if you want to hear the story.

How to “hold space” as a Christian and a Christmas miracle S2E30 Blue Skies and Green Pastures with Paula Adams

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  1. I actually got a chance to listen to your podcast! 🙂 And I’m very glad that I did. This is a lesson that my husband and I are going to be learning very soon. I appreciate your wisdom and that I can learn from you. I was raised by older boomer parents and there was VERY much a “don’t express your feelings, just ignore them and push them down.” Needless to say, this was NOT a good thing for me and a lot of our marriage has been me dealing with those emotions that I stuffed down and out of sight. (Also a lot of alcoholism in my family, very grateful that I never went down that path!) We work hard to let our children express themselves in a healthy manner, but I know for a fact that I am not always successful at this. I am going to have a hard time letting our oldest grow and learn on her own, I will definitely be keeping your message in mind. Because while I do try to let them grow and express themselves, there are times when I know for a fact that I express a “I think my way is best” 🙂 So very glad all of your sons where able to be there for Christmas! God is good! God Bless!

    • Thank you! It sounds like you are doing a good job of being aware and working at stopping the cycle of “stuffing”. You’re going to do fine with your oldest . 💕 Hugs! And best wishes for a happy new year!

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