I made a comment on a BBC page that I thought was saying ‘we need to come together’. But other people took it differently and thought I was claiming superiority. That was actually the opposite of my intention. I looked at the comment again and I realized I need to choose my words more carefully because people are angry, divided, and defensive. If we are to come together, and heal, and outmaneuver those who benefit from a divided nation, we must realize that certain words trigger emotions and avoid them, at least until we can develop a relationship of trust.
For example, one commenter said I should not say the words ‘both sides’. He’s right. I will avoid phrases that imply we are two different groups when trying to reach out to people and reach new understanding. I really believe there are many people who are actually in agreement about important things, but we do not know each other because we have been purposely divided by certain trigger words and topics. I will try harder!
For anyone here who thinks that I am being superior, I apologize. I tend to be very blunt and practical and even say things that I later think, well that is not what I meant to say. So I hope you’ll give me the benefit of the doubt and forgive my communication mistakes as I try to improve. Present me with good evidence if you think I am wrong about something. I value truth.
Let’s look at each other as human beings who want to be accepted and understood, not enemies to defeat.